Well, who’da thunk it? I’m a dad! And, much as just about everyone else has said before me, it’s amazing. To have this tiny life that you as a couple have generated, to love and care for, is a feeling that is indescribable, and like no other. Awesome.
The story of the delivery was fairly straightforward, although it was a long day. A few minutes past midnight on Sunday 22nd November, Fi shook me awake: “I think my waters have broken”. Whoa! From deep asleep to wide awake and on my feet in record time, I was casting about for food, shelter, whatever; then it dawned on me that there wasn’t anything to do at this stage apart from change the bed sheets. I decided that the process would be best served by me going back to sleep, while Fi didn’t get any shuteye until a brief hour from 7 till 8. And so the day began.
We carried on more or less as normal, while Fi tried to decide if the contractions were real or just more “Braxton-Hicks” rehearsals. We went for a stroll in the afternoon, which intensified things somewhat for a while, then it all settled down again. After having a spot of dinner, we decided on a stroll around Dartford to see if that helped – and everything kicked into high gear, with Fi having to pause every 50 metres or so till the contractions passed. Time to get home, then. Calling Virginia, the midwife, she advised giving it an hour before calling her again; an hour later there was no doubt. So she was on her way.
Meanwhile, the birthing pool had been set up and inflated, but not filled. Now, I began to fill it, in anticipation of it not being required for a little while yet. Good job too; it took about an hour and a half to fill it up. Meanwhile, Fi had taken up residence on her Swiss ball by the radiator, and stayed there for most of this stage of labour. Virginia arrived and supervised, until Fi had her “rest and be thankful” phase and decided to try out the birthing pool. In there for a short while, and the big contractions began. She managed these ones just the same as the previous stages – with amazing serenity. It was only in the last hour that things got a bit hairy and painful, and at this point I have to admit I was getting worried at this point – the Virginia said not to worry, it was all perfectly normal and progressing swimmingly. Fi, on the other hand, would have taken any drugs on offer at this stage, but by then it was too late. So she soldiered on.
Finally, at 2:46 AM on Monday 23rd November 2009, with one last push Amy was delivered into the pool below me. Crikey! I scooped her up out of the water, expecting a scream-fest, but she was quiet and calm. Pretty soon she began breathing, and we put her on her mother’s chest for cuddles and a welcome to the world. And I was a dad! But by this time I was too tired for euphoria. While Virginia took Fi to the toilet with Amy to start on breastfeeding and encourage delivery of the placenta, I started cleaning up and draining the pool. I’d say we finally got to bed about 4 AM, when Virginia went home with all her paraphernalia – I gave up tidying and left it to go and get some sleep. Joining Fi in bed with Amy, I spent a little while gazing in astonishment at this tiny little creature who had come to join us, then quickly succumbed to sleep.
Apparently, there’s something hormonal that happens to women when they give birth, which means they need less sleep than before. Not so their menfolk, who need their snooze just as much as before – except that the new arrival has no respect for this requirement! So a tiring few days, but everything has settled nicely now and she’s sleeping and feeding nicely. And it’s all wonderful.
Amy is a sweet-natured little baby; she doesn’t cry much unless she’s hungry or we’re changing her nappy (you’d think she’d be grateful, but whatever), and she sleeps to beat the band. A true Cunnane, then. I’m told that she has my eyes; Fi reckons she’s got her feet. She’s certainly got my long eyelashes, along with long legs, arms, feet and fingers. Beautiful dark eyes, although we can’t quite make up our minds as to the colour. I’m sure it’ll become clear as she grows. She likes to snooze on my chest as I recline in my chair, which means I get a nice break from my work, he he…
So here it is: I’m a grown-up, and I’m supposed to be responsible. But all I wanna do is be a rock’n'roll star – the two can’t be mutually exclusive, can they? Time will tell.